No! Not the rats! It's the dish! The last time I had that was at Carousel and DeliFrance but now no more... 
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Anyone knows where I can get that? Plsssss.....
| Start: | Dec 27, '08 12:00p |
| Location: | Not sure yet... Hubby!!??? |
Some form of sleep disturbance will affect the majority of us at some point in our lives. In most cases we’ll get over it, but for some people ongoing sleep problems persist. In this fact sheet we outline some of the common causes of poor sleep and offer some simple tips to help improve sleep.
Menopause symptoms, particularly hot flushes and night sweats, can disturb sleep.
Sleep apnoea is when the airways are blocked, causing airflow and breathing to stop for a short time during sleep.
Depression and anxiety can affect sleep, or be caused by lack of sleep. Counseling may be helpful.
Working when your body thinks you should be sleeping can impair sleep and lead to chronic sleep disturbance.
Pre-existing and chronic conditions can impair sleep. Addressing the pain may help.
However she has no symptoms. I rushed her to the hospital and she was monitored for 3 hours. She was discharged and was told to rest.. unfortunately the next day she was admitted to hospital when her blood pressure shot up at 222. I didnt realised that some ppl will not have any symptom at all. Most ppl I know with HBP will complaint of dizziness but not mum....
Some of you might know what HBP is all about... for those who knows little of it..read on..
You can have high blood pressure (hypertension) for years without a single symptom. But silence isn't golden. Uncontrolled high blood pressure increases your risk of serious health problems, including heart attack and stroke.
Blood pressure is determined by the amount of blood your heart pumps and the amount of resistance to blood flow in your arteries. The more blood your heart pumps and the narrower your arteries, the higher your blood pressure.
High blood pressure typically develops without signs or symptoms. And it affects nearly everyone eventually. If you don't have high blood pressure by age 55, you have a 90 percent chance of developing it at some point in your life, according to the National Heart, Lung, and Blood Institute. Fortunately, high blood pressure can be easily detected. And once you know you have high blood pressure, you can work with your doctor to control it.
Most people with high blood pressure have no signs or symptoms, even if blood pressure readings reach dangerously high levels.
Although a few people with early-stage high blood pressure may have dull headaches, dizzy spells or a few more nosebleeds than normal, these signs and symptoms typically don't occur until high blood pressure has reached an advanced — possibly life-threatening — stage.
In 90 percent to 95 percent of high blood pressure cases, the American Heart Association says there's no identifiable cause. This type of high blood pressure, called essential hypertension or primary hypertension, tends to develop gradually over many years.
The other 5 percent to 10 percent of high blood pressure cases are caused by an underlying condition. This type of high blood pressure, called secondary hypertension, tends to appear suddenly and cause higher blood pressure than does primary hypertension. Various conditions can lead to secondary hypertension, including kidney abnormalities, tumors of the adrenal gland or certain congenital heart defects.
Certain medications — including birth control pills, cold remedies, decongestants, over-the-counter pain relievers and some prescription drugs — also may cause secondary hypertension. In a 2005 study, women who took an average of 500 milligrams or more of acetaminophen (Tylenol, others) daily over several years were more likely to develop high blood pressure than were women who didn't take any acetaminophen. It's not known if the same holds true for men.
Various illicit drugs, including cocaine and amphetamines, also can increase blood pressure.
High blood pressure has many risk factors. Some you can't control.
Other risk factors for high blood pressure are within your control.
Certain chronic conditions also may increase your risk of high blood pressure, including high cholesterol, diabetes, kidney disease and sleep apnea. Sometimes pregnancy contributes to high blood pressure.
In a 2006 study, adults who worked more than 40 or 50 hours a week — particularly clerical and unskilled workers — were more likely to have high blood pressure than were those who worked 40 hours or less a week. Researchers tied the higher risk for workers with longer hours to unhealthy eating, less exercise, more stress and less sleep.
Although high blood pressure is most common in adults, children may be at risk, too. For some children, high blood pressure is caused by problems with the kidneys or heart. But for a growing number of kids, poor lifestyle habits — such as an unhealthy diet and lack of exercise — contribute to high blood pressure.
Ask your doctor for a blood pressure reading at least every two years. He or she may recommend more frequent readings if you have prehypertension, high blood pressure or other risk factors for cardiovascular disease.
Blood pressure is measured with an inflatable arm cuff and a pressure-measuring gauge. A blood pressure reading, given in millimeters of mercury (mm Hg), has two numbers. The first, or upper, number measures the pressure in your arteries when your heart beats (systolic pressure). The second, or lower, number measures the pressure in your arteries between beats (diastolic pressure).
The latest blood pressure guidelines, issued in 2003 by the National Heart, Lung, and Blood Institute, divide blood pressure measurements into four general categories:
Both numbers in a blood pressure reading are important. But after age 50, the systolic reading is even more significant. Isolated systolic hypertension (ISH) — when diastolic pressure is normal but systolic pressure is high — is the most common type of high blood pressure among people older than 50.
A single high blood pressure reading usually isn't enough for a diagnosis. Because blood pressure normally varies throughout the day — and sometimes specifically during visits to the doctor — diagnosis is based on more than one reading taken on more than one occasion. Your doctor may ask you to record your blood pressure at home and at work to provide additional information.
If you have any type of high blood pressure, your doctor may recommend routine tests, such as a urine test (urinalysis), blood tests and an electrocardiogram (ECG) — a test that measures your heart's electrical activity. More extensive testing isn't usually needed.
Excessive pressure on the artery walls can damage your vital organs. The higher your blood pressure and the longer it goes uncontrolled, the greater the damage.
Uncontrolled high blood pressure can lead to:
Uncontrolled high blood pressure also may affect your ability to think, remember and learn. Cognitive impairment and dementia are more common in people who have high blood pressure.
Treating high blood pressure can help prevent serious — even life-threatening — complications. Your doctor also may suggest steps to control conditions that can contribute to high blood pressure, such as diabetes and high cholesterol.
Blood pressure goals aren't the same for everyone. Although everyone should strive for blood pressure readings below 140/90, doctors recommend lower readings for people with certain conditions.
| Blood pressure treatment goals | |
|---|---|
| 140/90 mm Hg or lower | If you are a healthy adult |
| 130/80 mm Hg or lower | If you have chronic kidney disease, diabetes or coronary artery disease or are at high risk of coronary artery disease |
| 120/80 mm Hg or lower | If your heart isn't pumping as well as it should (left ventricular dysfunction or heart failure) or you have severe chronic kidney disease |
Changing your lifestyle can go a long way toward controlling high blood pressure. But sometimes lifestyle changes aren't enough. In addition to diet and exercise, your doctor may recommend medication to lower your blood pressure. Which category of medication your doctor prescribes depends on your stage of high blood pressure and whether you also have other medical conditions. To reduce the number of doses you need a day, which can reduce side effects, your doctor may prescribe a combination of low-dose medications rather than larger doses of one single drug. In fact, two or more blood pressure drugs often work better than one. Sometimes finding the most effective medication — or combination of drugs — is a matter of trial and error.
The major types of medication used to control high blood pressure include:
If you're having trouble reaching your blood pressure goal with combinations of the above medications, your doctor may prescribe:
Once your blood pressure is under control, your doctor may add aspirin to your regimen to reduce your risk of cardiovascular disorders.
Resistant hypertension: When your blood pressure is difficult to control
If your blood pressure has remained stubbornly high despite taking at least three medications from different classes of antihypertensive drugs, one of which should be a diuretic, you may have resistant hypertension — blood pressure that is resistant to treatment. People who have controlled high blood pressure but are taking four different types of medications at the same time to achieve that control are also considered to have resistant hypertension.
Having resistant hypertension doesn't mean your blood pressure will never get lower. In fact, if you and your doctor can identify what's behind your persistently high blood pressure, there's a good chance you can meet your goal with the help of treatment that's more effective. You may need to see a hypertension specialist if your primary care doctor isn't able to pinpoint a cause. It may also be that another condition you have that you may not be aware of, such as sleep apnea or kidney problems, is causing your high blood pressure. You may need to be more aggressive in following lifestyle recommendations.
Your doctor or hypertension specialist can evaluate whether the medications and doses you're taking for your high blood pressure are appropriate. You may have to fine-tune your medications to come up with the most effective combination and doses. Your doctor may also prescribe other medications, including a more potent or longer acting diuretic if you're not already taking one. Your doctor may also suggest nonthiazide diuretic drugs such as spironolactone (Aldactone) or eplerenone (Inspra), which change the way your body absorbs sodium and excretes potassium by blocking the hormone aldosterone. People with resistant hypertension often have higher levels of aldosterone.
In addition, you and your doctor can review medications you're taking for other conditions. Some medications, foods or supplements can worsen high blood pressure or prevent your high blood pressure medications from working effectively. Be open and honest with your doctor about all the medications or supplements you take.
If you don't strictly follow the prescribed medication regimen, your blood pressure can pay the price. If you skip doses because you can't afford the medication, because you have disagreeable side effects or because you simply forget to take your medications, talk to your doctor about solutions. Don't alter your treatment without your doctor's guidance.
Lifestyle changes can help you control and prevent high blood pressure — even if you're taking blood pressure medication. Here's what you can do:
High blood pressure isn't a problem that you can treat and then ignore. It's a condition you need to manage for the rest of your life. To keep your blood pressure under control:
Sticking with all this can be difficult — especially if you don't see or feel any symptoms of high blood pressure. If you need motivation, remember the risks associated with uncontrolled high blood pressure. It may help to enlist the support of your family and friends as well.
Restless legs syndrome (RLS) is a disorder related to sensation and movement. People with restless legs syndrome have an unpleasant feeling or sensation in their legs when they lie down to sleep. Most people also have a very strong urge to move their legs, and moving the legs sometimes makes them feel better. But all this movement makes it hard or impossible to get enough sleep.
When you don’t get enough sleep, you may start to have problems getting things done during the day because you're so tired. You may also be sleepy or have trouble concentrating. So it’s important to see your doctor and get help to manage your symptoms.
Usually there isn't a clear reason for restless legs. The problem often runs in families. Sometimes there is a clear cause, like not getting enough iron. If that’s the case, treating the cause may solve the problem.
Women sometimes get restless legs while they are pregnant. The problem usually goes away after the baby is born.
Other problems that are sometimes linked to restless legs syndrome include kidney failure, rheumatoid arthritis, diabetes, nerve damage, anemia, and Parkinson's disease. But most people who seek treatment do not have any of these other problems.
Restless legs syndrome makes you feel like you must move your legs. These feelings are often described as tingling, "pins and needles," prickling, pulling, or crawling.
Moving your legs will usually make your legs feel better, at least for a short time. This problem usually happens at night when you are trying to relax or go to sleep.
After you fall asleep, your legs may begin to jerk or move. These movements are called periodic limb movements. They can wake you from sleep, which adds to your being overtired. Although periodic limb movement is considered a separate condition, it often happens to people who have restless legs syndrome.
One of the hardest parts of having restless legs syndrome is getting to the diagnosis. Often doctors don’t ask about sleep or don’t ask about the symptoms of restless legs. If you're not sleeping well, or if you think you may have restless legs syndrome, tell your doctor.
Your doctor will talk with you about your symptoms to make sure that the feelings in your legs you describe are typical of restless legs syndrome and not caused by some other problem.
You may have blood tests to rule out other problems that could be causing your symptoms. In some cases, the doctor may order tests of your nerves to be sure there is no nerve damage. Your doctor may also order a sleep study called a polysomnography. This test records how often your legs jerk or move while you sleep.
If your symptoms are mild, a few lifestyle changes may be enough to control your symptoms. Some changes that may help:
When symptoms are more severe, medicines may help control your leg movements and help you sleep. There are different types of medicine, and you may have to try a few to find the one that works best.
I should be more patient.. I must be patient.... i will try to be more patient....
BUT YOU ARE MAKING ME LOSE MY PATIENCE!!!! 
OH ALLAH.. GRANT ME PATIENCE TO GO THROUGH ALL THIS...AMIN 
PATIENCE IS A BLESSING
The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said: "No one can be given a blessing better and greater than patience." - Sahih Al-Bukhari, Volume 2, Hadith 548
PATIENCE IS A GIFT
The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said: "There is no gift better and more vast (that you may be given) than patience." - Sahih Al-Bukhari, Hadith 8:477
She has been with me for 2 months and I have tolerated her attitude so much that I just have to let it go here....Claimed to have 2 years working experience in Malaysia and worked 3 months for someone who is known (i shall not say who) here. The story of the problematic maid...
These are the things that she did and irks me :-
1) When - about 1.5 mths ago.
I saw a round dot nicely drawn on the forehead of my 1 year old boy, Ashfiq. I asked her what happened she said....Oh tadi dia main main marker dan buat tanda di dahinya.. CAN YOU BELIEVE IT??? 
Fine... i didnt have any proof. But my baby will not be so accurate to make a nice dot in the middle of his forehead like a Pottu!
Another incident 2 weeks ago. Had a terrible headache and went back to sleep at 8am on Sunday. Heard a commotion in the boys' room and went out to check. Asked Azirul what happened - she was taking out the kids clothes and the wardrobe door was blocking her face. Ashfiq was facing the door with his back at me. Azirul told me that Ashraf said something about Indian. Suddenly Ashfiq turned to look at me.... there on his forehead.. A sticker! I asked them who had stick it there. The boys said bibik. Mind you all this while she was still looking thru the clothes and was hiding behind the door.
Me - Fitri! Kenapa dahi Ashfiq ada sticker? Siapa yg lekat?
Maid - Saya bu. Tak sengaja. Gurau aja. (still hiding behind the door)
Me - Tutup pintu tu! Saya cakap dengan kamu ni! Kemari! Apa yg tak sengaja? Apa yg gurau? Lucu sangat ya? Kenapa sih dengan kamu? Kamu kayak anak kecil main begini. Umur kamu berapa? Anak saya juga tidak pernah buat begitu. Kok kamu bikin Ashfiq begini memperbodohkan dia depan abg-abgnya? Jadi abang2nya bisa ketawakan dia? Lucu untuk kamu! Tidak lucu sama sekali pada saya!
Maid - Sorry bu. Tidak sengaja.
Me - Kamu mau kerja atau tidak? Kalau tidak mahu beritahu aja! Jgn mcm mcm di sini! Saya ada 4 org anak yg perlukan perhatian, perlu di didik, perlu di jaga, perlu di marah jika salah. Saya tidak perlukan seorang lagi! Saya ambil kamu untuk meringankan kerja saya bukan menyusahkan saya! Kamu org Islam atau bukan??
Maid - Islam bu. (I tell you her face - No expression at all!!!!)
Me - Kalau Islam kenapa bikin perkara sebegitu? Islam ada tanda tanda di dahi ya? Mau saya lekat sticker di dahi kamu??? Mau anak anak tertawakan kamu?? Otak kamu di mana sih? Perkara sebegini di buat main!
Maid - Sorry bu. Saya masih mau kerja dgn ibu. Saya tak mau ke agen. Saya sorry.
Me - Ini kali terakhir! Jangan macam macam dengan anak anak saya! DI rumah ini tidak ada yg dibenarkan mempermainkan sesiapa! Faham!
Maid - Ya bu.. sorry. (ya ya ya.. twit! geram sehhhh)
Hilang semangat aku nak tidur. sakit kepala pun da hilang!!!! Dodol betul!
2) When - About 1 month ago.
What Happened - Told her to look after Ashfiq while I sorted out my orders. Instead of giving him toys, she gave him the toy battery compartment cover with the Screw still intact!!! She left him to go to the toilet and I went to the room in time to grab it from him just as he was about to put it in his mouth! As if my house is short of toys!!!! Waited for her to come out from the toilet, fuming mad!
Me - Kamu lihat ini (showed the item to her). Ini mainan ya?
Maid - Tidak
ME - bahaya tak?
Maid - Bahaya
Me - kalau udah tahu itu bahaya kenapa berikan anak kecil???? Kalau Ashfiq masukkan ke mulutnya tadi, tertelan screw itu.. gimana?? Waktu itu tidak ada guna lagi cakap sorry! Sudah kurang mainan di rumah ini yg kamu harus berikan dia benda sebegini bahaya???
Maid - Sorry bu. (as usual)
3) Went to the toilet, leaving the hot iron on the floor and room's door opened. Told her hundredth times that when she is ironing and need to do something urgent or go to the toilet, do not leave the iron on the ironing board. The kids could accidentally knock it and get hurt. REminded her to close the door if she wants to leave the ironing. She used to do her ironing / folding clothes in a corner where I cannot see her. To me, if the room door is open, she is inside sitting at the corner doing her work. If the door is closed, then she is in the toilet (most of the time) and left her ironing for a while.
This happened about a month ago, I came out from my room with Ashfiq. Passed by the boys' room where she would be doing her ironing and saw some clothes strewn on the floor (thought she was folding the clothes). I walked to the kitchen, thinking that Ashfiq was behind me... and when I saw the toilet's door closed and Ashfiq not with me, I didnt feel right... quickly ran to the room just in time to stop Ashfiq from touching the hot iron which was on the floor. I was shivering with anger and fear... Fear because I cannot imagine what would happened to my son if I didnt rush in.
It took her 15 minutes to come out from the toilet. I really really shouted at her!! I have never shouted at my previous maids before! None of my previous maids, how silly their mistakes were, ever made me so mad like this one! At most I just scolded them with firm tone. This one from firm tone, to harsh to coarse voice (got such definitions??? - no care lah) does not work at all.
There are so many things that she did that I just don't have the patience anymore... mainly it concern my kids safety. Like didnt turn the screw of the fans propeller blade after cleaning. Imagine if the screw dropped and the blades drop while moving!!! Yes there is the fan's cover but if the blades drop inside while moving and cause it to break, the bits and pieces could fly and hit anyone! And I told her not once, not twice but 3 times!!!! Not like she has no experience. She has and its logical.... unscrew and screw it tight!!!! Da lah bodoh sombong, kurang ajar pulak tu.
I had already chose a replacement about 2 weeks ago. But I spoke to her giving her another chance. Told her that I am waiting for the other maid but I want to know if she wants to change her attitude. Be serious with work and be more mindful. She told me she would and she still wants to work for me. Refuse to be sent to the agency and promised to be more responsible. She change.....but
.....what makes me snapped??? It was just for a while....
Last week I was so busy that I told her to fetch Ashraft to and from school for a day. Later that afternoon, I took Ashraf to the shop. In the lift he told that it's dangerous to jump in the lift. I said yes it is. YOu should not be playing in the lift.
"But bibik jumped and jumped in the lift. She jumped so many times! And she also pressed the bell so many times! I told her don't jump but she still jump."
What the hell is wrong with that girl???
2 days ago,took her to NTUC to do some marketing. I didnt check what I paid for....when i reached home, she took out this bag of Chinese watercress and told me that it is nice!!! I was like...huh??!! What is that??!! Did I accidentally put the veg in my basket??!
"Saya beli ke tadi??" I asked her.
"Iya. Ibu beli." she said
"Bila yg saya masukkan dlm bakul?"
"Bukan ibu. Saya yg masukkan." dengan selambanya dia menjawab.
Eh!!! Even my kids ask for my permission if they want to buy anything. Who are you??!! I do not mind at all if you want to eat and ask me to buy. I have no problem buying for you. But tell me first!! Where are your manners???
And the latest.....Yesterday, I came back with Ashfiq after sending Ashraf to school and told her to feed him his lunch. I went to the toilet. I came out only to find him screaming in his cot. I went over to pick him up and to my astonishment I found a decoration which I put on my shoes cabinet (umbrella shaped candle holder with beads and diamond shaped ornaments dangling around it) in his cot!!! She simply gave him anything - dangerous or not, as long as he keeps quiet. I told her that the thing has sharp objects on it and should not simply give it to Ashfiq. She was washing his bottles and didnt even turn around to look at me and acknowledged. Not even a sorry from her.. Not even a hmm.. or mmm... Kurang ajar kan!!!!????
Anyway, I called the agency yesterday and rushed to the office when they told me they have lots of new candidates! Dengan spontan aku pergi! haha.. Reached there and choose a fresh maid. She will be coming in after lebaran. Sementara tu aku urut dada je lah.... Told the staff at the agency about her attitude and they ask me... Dia betul ke tidak? Gila ke? Ya.... good question. I really don't know. You tell me!!!!!!
Hmmm.. tak sabar betul nak raya.... bukan nak sambut hari raya tapi nak tukar maid aku yg macam budak kecik ni!!!!!
I've been very tolerant towards your irritating, idiotic and irresponsible attitude!
It's just because I could not find anyone suitable (to my preference) and the agency have not enough new biodata, that is why you are still here! If not out you go!
What is wrong with you? I've spoken to you about your attitude! I do not care how terrible you work, how lazy you are but I do care about how your attitude is towards my kids! i HAVE given you chances to proof yourself but time and again you have disappoint me. I have told you....You are here to help me not to create problem for me. You are so childish, so playful, so irresponsible! Dang! I really do not need a bratty teenage daughter.
You acted like you are the employer! The way you talked to me just showed me how bossy you are! I have never scolded any of my maid the way i scolded you! You know why??? because of your attitude!
Ya Allah pls give me lotttttsssss of patience especially this Ramadhan.
Sesungguhnya bulan Ramadhan tahun ini banyak sungguh dugaan ku! CUBAAN.......
Assalamualaikum....
TO Families, Friends, Contacts & Muslim all over the World.
MAY YOU HAVE A BLESSED RAMADHAN!
Wsalam...
Lynn & Andy
Happy 35th Birthday to You!!!! Love you so much.
ON 5th August, after ngaji with SIL, I rushed to meet them at Swensens' Tampines Mall... Mmg muka tak malu.. smua working colleagues I jer yg datang as siblings... but ehhhh my youngest sister too was there and she is my 2nd sister working colleague. And my 2 school-mate were there too.. and they are her working colleagues... so at least I kenal most of them...hahahahaha. yg penting I dpt makan ice cream!!!!">
Got this from email..
| Breathing Therapy The nose has a left and a right side,; we use both to inhale and exhale.. Actually they are different, you would be able to feel the difference. The right side represents the sun, left side represents the moon. During a headache, try to close your right nose and use your left nose to breathe. In about 5 mins, your headache will be gone. If you feel tired, just reverse, close your left nose and breathe through your right nose. After a while, you will feel your mind is re-freshed . Right side belongs to 'hot', so it gets heated up easily, left side belongs to 'cold'. Most females breathe with their left noses, so they get "cooled off" faster. Most of the guys breathe with their right noses, they get worked up. Do you notice the moment we wake up, which side breathes faster? Left or right? If left is faster, you will feel tired. So,close your left nose and use your right nose for breathing, you will get refreshed quickly. This can be taught to kids, but it is more effective when practised by adults. My friend used to have bad headaches and was always visiting the doctor. There was this period when she suffered headache literally every night, and unable to study. She took painkillers, did not work. She decided to try out the breathing therapy here: closed her right nose and breathed through her left nose. In less than a week, her headaches were gone! She continues the exercise for one month. This alternative natural therapy without medication is something that she has experienced. So, why not give it a try ? |
Here are my conversations with Ashraf which took place last week.
1) On the way home from school, we were waiting for the lift when an Indian construction worker came out from the lift.
Ashraf - Mama, where is that man going?
Me - I don't know, Ashraf. (frowning)... I don't care where he wants to go. (pause)...(must tell him not to be busybody)....Is he your uncle?
Ashraf - No.
Me - Is he your brother?
Ashraf - No
Me - Is he your father?
Ashraf - No
Me - then you do not have to bother where he's going? You don't need to know. He is just a stranger. Even if you know him, you don't have to know where he is going.
Ashraf - Mama, why you talked too much?
Me -
2) Fetched him from his Thinking program class and on the way home, he told me that his classmate could not find his brother, who was supposed to fetch him. He too did not know his home phone number.
Me - hmm..Do you know my handphone number?
Ashraf - No.
Me - Ok... now you must memorise my phone number... its 9325 XXXX...repeat.
Ashraf - 9325 XXXX
Me - again...
This went on for about 10 minutes.
Me - So tell me what is my phone number?
Ashraf - Are you old already? You cannot remember?
Me -
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And not coming back...
Her hb got into an accident and is in bad state. So she decided to stay home and look after him. To wait for him to recover will take time so she rather I find another maid.
So difficult to get a good employee... I hope the next one will be like her... if not better...hehehe..
I went to the maid agency yesterday. The transfer maid, she will start next week, InsyaAllah...so for the time being...
pelan pelan kayuhhhh...
Asked the new maid why was she returned to the agent, she said my employer's MIL complaint that I like to tell story... instigating both MIL and employer that caused some unhappiness.. but of course she deny it...
I warned her that when she work with me, I do not tolerate such nonsense. You come here to work and not to cause any problem. If your intention is to work then WORK properly. If your intention is to come here for fun or holiday then you might be better off at home. She promised that she will work diligently. Yeah.. I am yet to see that... I am taking a risk here... anyway who is not.???
Got this in my email... something to ponder.
Seorang isteri mengadu begini kepada saya, " Suami saya bukanlah seperti yg saya gambarkan sewaktu belum berkahwin.
Dia amat berbeza daripada penampilannya dahulu. Sekarang dia bukan sahaja gagal membahagiakan saya malah sering menjadikan saya kesal mempersuamikannya. Ingin sekali saya meninggalkannya, tapi tak berupaya kerana memikirkan anak2 dan masa depan saya sendiri, walaupun ada
lelaki yang sedia mengambil saya di luar sana. Saya seperti terperangkap
oleh kedunguan masa lalu. Kekal bersamanya bererti saya selamanyalah tidak
akan berasa bahagia. Apa yang boleh saya lakukan sekarang?
Lalu saya bertanya, skrg puan nak yang mana? Kekal bersamanya atau mengikut lelaki lain? Maksud saya mana yang lebih berat? Kalau Dr. tanyakan yang mana lebih berat, tentulah bersamanya lebih berat. Kalau begitu, mengapa tidak pejamkan mata, bayangkan yang indah2, anggaplah dia satu2nya lelaki yang ada di dunia ini dan binalah kebahgiaan bersama. Isteri itu seperti terkejut dgn saranan saya.
Barangkali dia mengharapkan satu cadangan yang lebih memihak kepada gelojak hatinya untuk memilih lelaki lain, berdasarkan kebahagiaan yang sudah gagal di kecapinya skrg.
Lalu saya perjelaskan, kalaulah kebahagiaan yang menjadi persoalan, belum tentu pilihan seterusnya akan menjaminkan kebahagiaan. Barangkali bersama lelaki kedua masalah lebih menimpa. Kalau nanti perkahwinan kedua itu juga gagal memberikan kebahagiaan, apakah anda akan berkahwin buat kali ketiga? Jika tak bahagia juga, anda akan berkahwin pula buat kali keempat? Kemudian kelima, keenam? Sampai bila?
Hidup bukankah untuk dinikmati? Usia bukanlah lama untuk dipersiakan dengan hal-hal yang tidak sepatutnya. Siapapun dia, dia adalah lelaki yang
bergelar `SUAMI'. Kebahagiaan adalah satu istilah yang telah terbentuk.
Tinggal bagaimana kita mendefinasikan kebahagiaan itu sahaja yang
menyebabkan sesetengah drpd kita gagal berasa bahagia.
Alangkah ruginya kalau hidup yang singkat ini kita gagal mendapat bahagia.
Semata2 kerana menyangka kebahagiaan itu akan dinikmati jika bersama orang sekian-sekian. Semata-mata kerana menyangka Si Dia boleh memberi bahagia yang diimpi-impikan. Kalau MELESET bagaimana? Kalau kebahagiaan yang diidam-idamkan itu tidak diperoleh sdgkan kebahagiaan yang sedia ada ini telah ditinggalkan, bagaimana?
Setelah anda Diijab-kabul, satu perjanjian telah dibentuk. Anda telah
merelakan diri anda bergelar ISTERI dan rela memanggil org berkenaan yang
tiada langsung pertalian dengan anda sebelumnya sebagai SUAMI. Anda
merelakan segalanya kepada dia dan demikian dia terhadap anda. Setelah
diikat dengan tali perkahwinan, mengapa tidak pejamkan mata dan anggaplah
dia pasangan yang terbaik. Dia mmg dijadikan buat anda. Dia adalah
segala-galanya. Bentuklah kebahagiaan bersamanya.
JANGAN mimpi-mimpikan lagi org lain selain dia.
JANGAN angan-angankan perkara yang bukan-bukan.
INGAT!!!!.. Anda dijadikan dari tulang rusuk dia. Relakan diri anda untuk
bertolak ansur dlm beberapa hal untuk mencari kesukaan dan kebencian
bersama. Relakan membina bahagia dan dialah alatnya.
Masalah yang sering menimpa pasangan muda ialah masing2 gagal memantau imaginasi untuk membentuk bahagia pada awal perkahwinan. Setelah segalanya dilalui dan masalah menapak di sana sini, barulah sedar sesuatu sepatutnya dilakukan lebih awal dahulu. Tetapi nyata sudah terlambat, imaginasi bersama mekanisme-mekanisme nya telah dipersia-siakan. Bahagia kelihatan tetapi sudah tidak terjangkau dek tangan. Kesudahannya, bahagia di> sangka berada di luar dan mahu di buru walhal sebenarnya bahagia sudah berada di tangan, hanya gagal mengenal dan menikmatinya sahaja.
Selagi mana SUAMI anda itu masih menjalankan tanggungjawabnya, maksud saya dia masih ingat rumah, ingat anak-anak dan ingat untuk mencari rezeki, dia masih seorang lelaki yang boleh diharapkan. Apalagi jika dia seorang yang tidak meninggalkan ibadah-ibadah fardu, kekurangan-kekurang an yang ada pada dirinya hanyalah sekadar kekurangan untuk membenarkan kata-kata `NO MAN IS PERFECT".
p.s. Dear... I love you for what you are... I truly do. And I know you love me too...:)
