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Thursday, 8 February 2007

Create a Happy Marriage....

Tips for you and me!

A Happy Marriage Comes From Within

One of the myths about marriage is that marriage will make you happy. That's not true.

Your happiness both as an individual and as a married partner must come from within yourself.

Being married can add to your happiness, but it is not and can not be the primary source of your happiness. Here are strategies to help you create a happier you and a happy marriage.

A Few Strategies for Creating a Happier You and a Happy Marriage

Like yourself.
Be yourself.
Be nice to one another.
Show mutual respect.
Be supportive of each other.
Agree to have fair fights.
Each evening, share with one another three happy things that you noticed during the day. Talk about why these moments of happiness occurred.
Both of you write down how you want to be remembered.

Talk with your spouse about how the way you are living your lives helps or takes away from what's important to you both.

Make a list of things that make you happy such as a sunny day, a hot bath, a child's laugh. Create ways to include these happy times in your life more often.

Do a random act of kindness not only for a stranger each day, but also for one another. Don't talk about these acts of kindness with one another. They are for your own personal self-esteem and growth.

Compliment and affirm your spouse.

Word of Caution

We are not saying that you can create a happy marriage when there is infidelity, abuse, lying, etc. A dysfunctional marriage can make you unhappy.

If you are in an unhappy marriage, please seek professional counseling so you can make an informed and rational decision as to whether or not your marriage is worth saving.